vconn: Fix detection of vconn local IP address, to fix in-band control.

vconn: Fix detection of vconn local IP address, to fix in-band control.

The in-band control code needs to know the IP and port of both ends of the
control connection.  However, the vconn code was only reporting the local
address after the connection had already succeeded, which created a
chicken-and-egg problem.  In practice we would fail to connect until the
switch went into fail-open, at which point the connection would go through.

Fortunately, we can get the local IP address right after we try to connect,
not just after the connection completes, so this commit changes the code
to do that.

This commit also breaks setting the remote IP and port into functions
separate from vconn_init(), which makes the code more readable.